Here’s a question for you: What are your thoughts on talking about people? Now take a minute and think about it…
…Don’t just immediately say, “That’s so mean…I don’t do that.” The thing is, I believe it’s human nature and we all do it to one extent or another. Whether it’s with our spouse or our close friends, we voice our opinions on other people whether they be strangers, acquaintances or even family members or friends. Sometimes we need to vent, sometimes there are just interesting stories that need discussing; you know, dissecting and trying to unravel the mysteries of people and the things they do. The “we” I am referring to here are those of us with the maturity and common sense not to engage in talking about others out in the world at large…or right across the room from the person whom we are discussing.
That is where it crosses the line into the realm of unacceptable, cruel and simply wildly immature. When grown women (and by grown, I mean my age) think it’s a good idea to cup their hand around their friend’s ear and whisper while they are both looking directly at you, then there’s a serious problem. Or three. You all know by now that I don’t just come up with these stories out of nowhere. This for real happened to me the other day at a training at work.
Almost simultaneously, my close friend and I honed in on these two babes doing just that across the room from us. And it’s not like we don’t all know each other…I work in a small school district, and it was a department training so it was just those of us who work together in the special education department for God’s sake. Don’t worry nor feel the need to console me. If you’ve been around the blog for any length of time then you already know I have both an abundance of self-confidence and an overwhelming intolerance for ridiculous human beings so it didn’t hurt my feelings in any way, shape or form.
My first thought was not, “Oh no, what’s wrong with me…why are they talking about me?” My first thought was, “What. The. Hell.?” Are you kidding me with this? If I have something to say about someone I am either going to say it directly to them or if the situation doesn’t warrant that, I’ll engage in the aforementioned dissection later in the privacy of my own realm. Being me, I didn’t get all flustered and look away like I didn’t see them. Oh no. I stared laser beams directly at them with my best “disgusted teacher” face until they buckled under the pressure and stopped. It was their turn to look away all flustered while trying to pretend they were engaged in some more adult-like endeavor. Like, I don’t know, not acting as if they were auditioning for a role in Mean Girls: The Geriatic Version.
The problem that I have with this entire scenario is simple. It didn’t bother me personally because I learned long ago not to give a sh*t what other people think, particularly irrelevant people. What did bother me is what if it wasn’t me? What if it was someone who was already lacking in self-confidence and feeling badly about themselves? What if it was someone who was going through something horrific in their life and were already suffering? And what about the fact, that the women engaging in this behavior were adults whose focus and chosen career is to guide and shape children? Ya, what about that?
I know that some of you may say that these women are lacking in self-esteem and it makes them feel better about themselves to snipe on other women in such an overt manner…the poor sad creatures deserve my empathy and pity. Um, no. There are some things for which I accept no excuses, and blatant intentional meanness is one of them.
Now I know that they couldn’t have been cutting on my outfit because I was wearing what I have on in today’s post and it’s a pretty fine look if I do say so myself. And it just so happened to be the perfect look for this month’s edition of the #Ageless Style Link Up; our theme this month is “How To Transition Summer Pieces Into Fall”.
These camo soft pants as well as their olive and black counterparts have been my go-to pants all summer long. They are soft, lightweight and perfect for those days that you just don’t want to wear shorts. Throughout the summer I’ve paired them with camis and tank tops, but when the temperature starts to get cooler (like the day I wore this) switching out the cami for a tee and lightweight floral bomber jacket is just the ticket. I picked this floral bomber jacket up a couple of years age, but now bomber jackets are enjoying a major trend moment and they seem to be everywhere.
A camo and floral mix is at the top of my list of favorite print mixes. There’s just something about the mix of the masculine/feminine vibe that gets me every time. The nice thing about a lightweight jacket, much like a button down shirt, is that when we’re between seasons and the temperature fluctuates throughout the day you can easily tie it around your hips and it still adds a snazzy element to your overall look. And the blush lace up flats? I’ve been chomping at the bit to wear them since I grabbed them during the Nordstrom sale, so since it was a cooler day I switched out my sandals for these little lovelies.
An excellent (and simple) way to transition your Summer pieces into the cooler months is layering. Layering is your friend when it comes to getting year round mileage out of your more lightweight pieces. I will continue to wear these pants even when the temperatures hit the arctic range; they are loose fitting enough that a pair of leggings underneath will work while also adding warmth. The same goes for my sundresses; whether over or under sweaters they enjoy the light of day all year long paired with tights or leggings and a pair of boots.
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