Gingham Shirt & Floral Lace Up Flats: Comfortable In Your Own Skin

Gingham shirt, floral lace up flats and boyfriend jeans.

Over the course of the last few years, there has been much discussion in regard to body image, in particular, weight and body size…

THE STORY

…And I feel that for the most part, that is a good thing. This discourse has opened the eyes of a lot of people including advertisers to some degree. Skinny is no longer the end all be all. Beautiful women come in all shapes and all sizes, and one’s self-worth is not determined by the number on the tag inside of their jeans. And that is as it always should have been.

I do so admire the women who, regardless of their size, absolutely love their own bodies. They love it, they own it, they rock it. They give not a thought (or at least very minimal thought) to any self-perceived flaws nor the faux flaws that society and the media attempt to put upon them. Alas, I am not one of those women.

Here is where the “for the most part” in my first sentence comes into play. All of this self-body love can occasionally make me feel somewhat inadequate. And I’m sure that I’m not the only one. Why would that make me feel inadequate? Shouldn’t the fact that other women are rockin’ on with their bad selves make me feel good? I mean after all, we are all in this together, and any stride forward for one is a stride forward for the sisterhood.

Here’s why…quite simply, I am not happy with my body at the moment. There. I said it out loud. No, I’m not caught up in self-loathing; I left that behind in my thirties. Nor do I berate myself in the mirror every time I catch a glimpse of myself. And no, I am absolutely not fishing for compliments. But also no, I am not digging my body in it’s current state. You see, here’s the thing; there is and has always been, a particular weight range that I am comfortable at. That range is where I feel my healthiest, look my best and feel most comfortable in my own skin. I feel like me.

What I’m not digging has very little to do with age or the aging process. Of course I’m not pumped about the wrinkles and additional cellulite. But those things are what they are. I deal with them just like everyone else. The extra weight I’m carrying around though? Plain and simple, it’s because over the course of the last year or so I have allowed things to go to shit. I cannot simply accept it as the way I am now.  My eating habits are absurd and my former gym rat self has morphed into a straight up couch vegetable. The sad truth is that I know how to eat and I know how to work out. I was a bodybuilder for a good fifteen years for God’s sake, so I absolutely have the knowledge necessary to live my healthiest life. The problem has been the willpower and the desire. I have allowed some darker emotions to dictate my habits and that my friends, is no bueno.

But I digress. Does it make me any “less” because I refuse to allow my body to continue in it’s current state? Does it make me a self-flagellator? Does it mean that I don’t love myself? Of course not. But every once in awhile, when I’m inundated with “love yourself the way you are” messages I wonder. I’m not chasing after some unattainable media constructed ideal body; nor am I chasing after the body I had in my late thirties when I was still hardcore into bodybuilding. I’m simply looking to get back to where I’m comfortable in my own skin. No more, no less. It is perfectly okay to not be okay with your body. Wanting to improve and do better is okay as long as it’s for the right reasons. There’s no shame in that. And at the heart of it, isn’t that what loving one’s own body is really all about?

THE OUTFIT

Last month my beautiful friend Ann from Kremb De La Kremb and I tried out our first experiment in virtual shopping together. You can read all about the process and see the piece we chose last month here. We had so much fun doing it, and I also had some reader requests, so we decided to do it again.

This go ’round we had better luck. Neither of us were particularly pleased with last months piece, I actually ended up giving it to my daughter. This time though? Oh man, I am in love with this gingham shirt that Ann found at Target. Initially I was kind of like, “Eh”. But the more I looked at it online the more I developed a bit of a crush. And when it arrived I could not have been happier! It’s a piece from Target’s Who What Wear line and it’s actually the first piece I’ve purchased from that line. If this gingham shirt is any indicator, I’ll be going back for more. The fit and quality are excellent, especially for the money.

Gingham is one of those prints that plays really well with not only solids, but pretty much any other print you would want to pair it with. I own one other gingham shirt and as you can see here, it’s beautiful paired with a floral print. I actually did that today with the floral print in my shoes. Plus, there is the additional print on the bandana. I have to say though, I wish that I had just a plain red square neck scarf. I’m thinking the bandana almost took it into farmer’s daughter territory which isn’t exactly what I was going for.

Fortunately, my favorite shredded boyfriend jeans along with the floral lace up flats, saved me from looking like I was heading to the barn to milk Bessie.

Ann kept it casual too. Keep in mind, we don’t consult each other in regard to how we’re styling the piece; that’s part of the fun! I love how vibrant her coral shorts look paired with the black and white gingham. Her super cute satin knot slides somehow keep it casual yet magically dress it up at the same time. And seriously friends…how cute is that camera bag of hers? Definitely hop over to krembdelakremb.com for all the deets on her outfit. And while you’re at, I highly recommend you give her a follow on Instagram for a constant source of cool eclectic outfit inspiration!

THE TIP

If you haven’t already, give gingham a whirl. It’s a fun, versatile print that is just begging to be mixed with other prints. If you’re starting to feel the gingham love like I am, here are a few super fabulous options:

1.Ruffled skirt//2. Fit and Flare Dress//3. Peplum Cami//4. Embroidered Top//5. Off The Shoulder Dress//6. Red Ruffled Skirt

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Top: Target;  Shoes: Qupid (Similar);  Jeans: GAP (Similar)

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19 Comments

  1. 07.5.2017 / 7:16 am

    Thank you for putting into words exactly how I feel right now in regards to weight and my own body. Every Summer I put on a few pounds because I’m off work (elementary school) and I indulge a bit more. I end up feeling gross and bloated and have to get back on track. It’s something I do to feel my best not to try to be super skinny or wear a smaller size; I just want to fit better into my current clothes. Well said!
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    • debbies
      07.5.2017 / 8:59 am

      Yes! You are so right Kellyann…it is absolutely not about being skinny or wearing a smaller size at all. When my slouchy boyfriend jeans are fitting me more like skinny jeans I just do not feel good. And for me, sizing up is just not something I’m willing to do, I want the clothes I already own to fit me well. 🙂

  2. 07.5.2017 / 7:36 am

    There have been a few people lately in the 40+ blogosphere echoing your thoughts as of late. Highheels in the Wilderness and FakeFabulous.

    I have also written that I’m not keen with my mini bun in the oven as of late. Health issues are mostly to blame that have been stopping me from working out since last November but that doesn’t mean I can’t simply cut back on food intake. I have had a bit of success with cutting back to two meals a day but I don’t know if that kind of weight loss is sustainable unless I continue that way for the rest of my life.

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    • debbies
      07.5.2017 / 9:15 am

      I had a sneaking suspicion that I wasn’t alone in this. While the not working out is definitely a problem, even more so for the overall health benefits, the eating habits I’ve developed are ridiculous. The last few weeks I’ve gone back to cutting out all obvious sugar and junk food. I have lost some pounds, but more importantly I feel better. Sugar exacerbates my chronic fatigue symptoms to a major degree so the fact that I have been eating like that is absurd. Not only was I physically miserable because of the weight, but the body pain and extreme fatigue has been a daily struggle. Both of those have also improved in the last few weeks so I need to keep my head on straight and make my current eating habits second nature again.

  3. Jackie
    07.5.2017 / 9:41 am

    My dear, YOU LOOK FABULOUS, JUST THE WAY YOU ARE! From my experience, how I present myself to the world is what makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. Yes, there are outfits gathering moth holes in my closet because they are too small to wear. Dieting is NOT going to get me back to that place, because dieting means deprivation. When I went vegan, I dropped 17 lbs., but it is a difficult lifestyle to maintain. Self love, creative visualization, exercise (without joining a gym) and clean eating will get me back to where I not only will look great, but more importantly, feel great. xo

    • debbies
      07.5.2017 / 9:56 am

      Thank you so much Jackie! I don’t believe in “dieting”. Typically going on a diet is setting one’s self up for failure. Healthy sustainable eating habits on the other hand make all the difference in the world. Over the years I have found that working out at home is so much more enjoyable for me than going to the gym; I just fell out of the habit of doing that as well.
      One of the reasons that I hesitated in writing this post is because I am tiny by societal standards, and I know that. If someone my size complains about their body they often get the “Oh, poor little thin girl whining because she isn’t thin enough”. For me at least, that’s not the case. It’s about feeling good about MYSELF, feeling healthy and at my best, not trying to meet some unrealistic societal standard.
      And you are so right, clean eating (with a few treats now and again for sanity’s sake) is the only way to get there! 🙂

    • debbies
      07.5.2017 / 10:10 am

      Wow Jackie! She is absolutely amazing and truly beautiful. Roz is an inspiration to ALL women. 🙂

  4. 07.5.2017 / 10:06 am

    I love this post. The one thing I find the most difficult about aging is the added effort it takes to stay fit. This past week I had family visiting and we pretty much ate non stop. So here I am now trying to reverse the effects. I come from a family where almost everyone has extreme health issues. My mom, sisters and a brothers all have either advanced COPD, CHF or type 1 diabetes. One brother had a massive heart attack a year ago and is expected to only live a few more months because the damage was so bad. He is 59 years old. Everyday I wake up extremely grateful for my health and worried about losing one or more of them. When I run and suck air into my lungs I do it for them. I’ve seen first hand what smoking, inactivity and poor diet can do to a person. I guess in a way you could say I’ve been scared straight. I sometimes think self love it more about how we treat ourselves than how we see ourselves. Anyway, time for a trail run! Peace!
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    • debbies
      07.5.2017 / 10:16 am

      Omg Cheryl…self love is more about how we treat ourselves than how we see ourselves…that should be on a tee shirt! Truer words have never been spoken.
      I too come from a family with a vast array of health problems; my mom passed away when she was 34 due to complications from diabetes. So I am like you in that it’s not a good idea to tempt fate when the odds aren’t necessarily in your favor due to family history.

  5. 07.5.2017 / 10:43 am

    I totally feel the same! I will probably never be the size I once was and I’m okay with that but I still want to look and feel good and to me that means maintaining some sort of healthy lifestyle and keeping some sort of muscle tone. I like that I can still go and do physical activity without dying. And I love getting my “numbers” at the doctor and seeing they are still about the same as they were in my 20’s despite the extra weight. Love the bandana!

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  6. 07.5.2017 / 3:42 pm

    You both look great, I love gingham!

    I have not been happy with my body for awhile since I gained weight. The more I think about it and get down Ithe more I eat. I need to change my lifestyle slightly to get my confidence back. I want to get fit again but I think it gets harder as you get older
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  7. 07.6.2017 / 11:01 am

    Debbie, thanks for that! I am glad, I am not the only one who struggles with feeling like I could feel better and look better. Like you, it is not that I am not accepting myself, it is that I know there is a better me in there…a healthier individual! I love that shirt and you both rocked it! I love your black riveted belt, that alone keeps your outfit from looking too much like Hee Haw! I think what you did was a perfect combination of edgy meets country. – Amy
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  8. 07.6.2017 / 4:46 pm

    Debbie, I totally share your pain! I started my blog 8 months ago and have gained weight and just feel out of it at a time when I sure wish I could look my best! I can blame some of it on an ankle issue I have had for the last 6 months, but, like you, my eating habits are atrocious. I think you should give yourself some slack due to your foot surgery. Nothing like that to slow you down and set you back. You will come out on top. Thanks for your honesty in writing this post.
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  9. 07.8.2017 / 10:04 am

    love the shirt and I love the comments. Like you I know better but I have let everything go for over two years now and I am not happy with myself. I am not consumed like I use to be but I truly am not content to let the extra lbs ride.

  10. 07.9.2017 / 1:51 pm

    I think both way’s is styled is great Debbie. I am hankering for something Gingham! Getting on to showing the body, I have just bared myself to the world in a swimsuit! A real challenge for me I can assure you. I am very modest and shy, and there are plenty of bad bits I don’t like on show. But I wanted to be brave and glad that I did it. xx
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