Peplum Cami & Slouchy Pants: The End Of Ambiguity

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I realize that there was more than a little ambiguity in yesterday’s post…

THE STORY

…That was not at all intentional; I myself can’t stand ambiguity, in my opinion it’s often nothing more than an attention-getting device. I was vague in regard to what exactly was going on not to seek attention but because a) I wrote the post several days ago and wasn’t feeling like sharing the story and b) I wasn’t sure if I was going to share the entire story or not. What I share here in the story portion of my posts has to meet one of two criteria. It either has to be amusing and/or outrageous or it has to be a story that others can learn something from and relate to their own lives. I’ve learned a great deal in the last week, so I decided that perhaps maybe someone else could benefit from what I’ve learned.

A little over a month ago I wrote a post entitled “Wednesday’s With Sis” that you may or may not have read. If you didn’t, you might want to take a quick look just so you understand what I’m talking about now. Last Wednesday night Sis lost her long and painful battle with ALS. That in itself was painful enough, but oddly enough her passing and all of the events following it coincided almost to the day, with the loss of my mother 34 years ago. Hence, the emotional steamroller I referred to in yesterday’s post. It was like losing them both simultaneously if that makes sense. Not surprisingly, much introspection and soul-searching took place and I learned the following things:

  • While the pain is still very real and very raw, with determination I can function and get on with my life unlike when I was 17. Back then I didn’t have the wisdom nor the coping skills and was lost in a very dark place in my head for awhile.
  • Old wounds can be reopened and I can get knocked back to that dark place, BUT I no longer have to stay there.
  • Time to wallow in one’s grief is necessary, but you cannot allow it to be permanent. If necessary, mentally give yourself a cut-off day and that’s the day you get your act together.
  • The love and support of people who really know you is as necessary to life as oxygen.
  • The kind words, support and love from people that you have never actually met in person mean more than you would think. Those of us who blog know that we are all hugely supportive of one another in our blogging endeavors, but the kindness and love I received from women I have had the privilege of becoming friends with through blogging meant the world to me.
  • Sometimes the smallest gestures make all the difference.
  • Take nothing for granted.
  • People will disappoint you, but then others whom you would least expect it from, come through for you.
  • If you are observant, death teaches you much about the living.

THE OUTFIT

This red peplum cami is the print version of this fabulous blue peplum cami that I got from Old Navy earlier in the summer and absolutely fell in love with. This time I picked up this color, the same print in navy blue and a plain black one. At under $10 apiece you can’t go wrong. It’s comfortable, lightweight and washes up really well. To me, this top qualifies as a basic. It can be worn on it’s own or layered under or over things once it cools down in the fall. The pants are also a lightweight rayon, but I gotta tell ya, when it hits about 90 shorts are a better idea. Because of the heat, this outfit much like yesterday’s, is simple and to the point. Very little adornment, super lightweight and no layers.

THE TIP

Stock up on basics in multiple colors….especially when they are on sale.

THE LINKUPS

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Top: Old Navy;  Pants: JCPenney (Similar);  Sandals: Payless (Similar)

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20 Comments

  1. 08.3.2016 / 7:45 am

    So sorry for your loss.

  2. 08.3.2016 / 8:08 am

    Debbie, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you!

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  3. 08.3.2016 / 8:26 am

    Proud of you babe…….look beautiful as always. Love the casual chic look that you pull off so well! Muah….
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  4. 08.3.2016 / 8:51 am

    Prayers of healing for you. Grief can be so overwhelming, I hope that by sharing you can feel a little better.
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  5. 08.3.2016 / 10:32 am

    I am so sorry about your loss my beautiful friend. Sorry I have been MIA but I have had the busiest of Summers. I cannot believe how hard it may be to lose a sibling , but you are strong. This post and dedication to your sister was wonderful and yes the blogging community is indeed an extension to our strength and gratitude.

    Love your easy breezy outfit. That peplum tank is awesome and my closet needs it, some black joggers too. Last but not least I love that fun, simple necklace.

    P.S. I have stopped by before but I don’t think I mentioned it, love the new fun and modern, clean yet girly blog design.

  6. 08.3.2016 / 12:21 pm

    Dear Debbie,
    I am so sorry for your loss.
    Laurie

  7. 08.3.2016 / 12:57 pm

    With this post, you have shown how amazingly strong you’ve become, Debbie. Of course death will come to us all, and learning how to grieve and move on is a huge effort, but one that will benefit us all at different times in our lives.
    And I think your statement that death teaches you about living is very impactful. I feel that way too—because in reality life is so short that we need to have gratitude and enjoy it!
    That book Tuesdays with Morrie was really an eye opener to me. I even bought it for my entire staff at the time, because it affected me so deeply. In fact…I love his idea of having a party—while you’re living—forget the funeral! That’s why it was so nice you spent Wednesday’s with your aunt!
    With much love, sympathy & respect,
    jodie
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  8. 08.3.2016 / 6:17 pm

    So very sorry, Debbie. I hope that sharing your story helped a tiny bit as we all send you healing thoughts and prayers.

  9. 08.3.2016 / 7:50 pm

    That is so very tough and heart breaking, thanks for sharing

  10. 08.3.2016 / 9:34 pm

    I am sending you healing thoughts, Debbie. That reliving of the deaths of my parents has happened all too often in my life. I often think I have become immune to those feelings then suddenly they creep up and slam me in the face. One thing I did to prevent these surprise emotional attacks was I decided to get married one day after the anniversary of my father’s death. I was so exhausted from associating the entire month of January with gloom, and death, and darkness, that my husband and I purposefully chose that day to be our wedding day. And for me, while I feel a pang of sadness every year on January 22, it is quickly followed on January 23 by joy and thankfulness for all that I have in my life. I hope you can find a peaceful and calming way to get through this.

    If you have not read it already, I think you would really enjoy my post 39 Lessons I Have Learned on My Journey Out of the Darkness. http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com/?s=39+lessons

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  11. 08.4.2016 / 10:49 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁

    xoxo Bettye

  12. Sherry
    08.4.2016 / 1:53 pm

    Sooo sorry to hear of your sisters passing (and your mothers long ago). Thanks for sharing.

  13. 08.8.2016 / 7:55 am

    I can’t even begin to imagine what you must be going through right about now, although, having lost my mother as a child (13), I know it’s devastatingly heartbreaking to lose a loved one. You’re right though, having people around to help you in this tough time is wonderful – but alone time is still necessary.
    I’m so sorry, honey.
    Suzy xx
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