Black Lace Sundress & Brown Sandals: Emotional Steamroller

black sundress, brown sandals, cage bralette

The past week just may well have been one of the longest weeks of my life…

THE STORY

…And you know that whenever someone says that, it’s not in a good way. Why is that exactly? Why can’t a fun fabulous week be one of the longest weeks ever? The reason for the length of the week isn’t something I’m ready to get into right now so we’ll save that for another day. Suffice it to say, I’m just simply happy that today is Tuesday.

I have been doing a lot of thinking though, about the human psyche and how difficult events  from our past never really go away. Yes, we can overcome them. Yes, the rawness of them fades with time. And yes, they often are a major piece of what forms us into who we are today, but sometimes they can barrel back into our lives like an emotional steamroller triggered by something in our present. It sideswipes us and runs us down, and it all becomes almost as real as it was when it actually happened; kind of like a time machine from hell. You’re still chronologically an adult, but emotionally it’s like you’re 17 all over again.

The thing about the human spirit is though, is that hopefully as we grow older and mature, it does as well. And as such, we are better able to deal with the emotional steamroller the second time around. Another bonus of aging is by the time we are fully formed adults hopefully we have weeded out the losers and surrounded ourselves with only the people that truly matter to us. And those people provide us with a safety net that we may not have had the first go ’round. The combination of maturity and people we love makes it so much easier to bounce back and find our footing again.

THE OUTFIT

Well, today is this month’s installment of the #AgelessStyleLinkup…hopefully you’ll scroll down and link up your latest style post! The theme this month is “Dog Days Of Summer”. And I couldn’t think of a better way to beat the heat than my lightweight black lace sundress. Yes, it’s black. But it’s also super lightweight and loose fitting so that makes it the perfect choice for a sweltering summer day. Back in November I styled the same black lace sundress with a sweater, moto jacket and cowboy boots, but since it was close to 95 degrees, I figured sandals were the better option. I went with brown instead of black or white because not only is it a color combo I really like, but it also isn’t the first one that jumps to mind. Black or white would have worked as well (and you know that I have these same sandals in black and white), but it isn’t often that I do the expected.

This dress looks great belted as well, like I did with the burgundy version which obviously gives it more shape, but it also shortens it up enough that a skirt extender is necessary. Due to the heat, not only was I not feeling the need for an extra layer, I also wasn’t feeling the need to have a belt cinched around my waist. The cage bralette I layered underneath served two purposes; it added cool visual details with a little “bad girl” vibe and a bralette is waaayyy cooler than a regular bra.

THE TIP

When the temperatures reach the point that your makeup has slid off of your face and puddled at your feet, keep it simple. Go for lightweight, loose fitting items and forgo the extras. The lace details on the sundress paired with the cage bralette as well as the brown sandals and choker added enough excitement to keep it interesting without increasing the heat factor.

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Dress: Shop Hearts;  Sandals: Payless (Similar);  Bralette: Forever 21 (Similar);  Necklace: Ettika

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16 Comments

  1. 08.2.2016 / 1:43 am

    Debbie,
    I can’t say enough how much I feel for you. Your words in this post are amazing – I love the way you describe the human psyche…it is so true!
    As for your little black dress – adorable is the only word I can think of.

    Wishing you a lovely day and better week ahead,
    XX Yvonne
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  2. 08.2.2016 / 7:21 am

    You have been in my thoughts so often the past couple of days, Debbie. Your words were so touching and true. I truly enjoy the ways you express yourself in all of your posts. Hugs to you.

    Your black dress was a great choice for this month’s theme. The straps are a fabulous detail.

  3. 08.2.2016 / 7:29 am

    Hope everything gets better soon! Thinking of you and sending hugs! Your dress is adorable! Perfect for a hot summer day!

    Jill
    Doused In Pink
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  4. 08.2.2016 / 8:32 am

    Sorry you are going through a tough time. I hope things will get better soon!

    Perfect dress for a hot summer day! You look great!
    Andrea@WellnessNotes recently posted…Black & White OutfitMy Profile

  5. 08.2.2016 / 10:32 am

    Sorry to hear things are hard 🙁 Hope things get better soon. I am loving this strappy neckline on you!
    Tara recently posted…Maroon Halter and Denim ShortsMy Profile

  6. 08.2.2016 / 12:57 pm

    A perfectly simple summer look ~ love it !!

    Monica.

  7. 08.2.2016 / 2:45 pm

    Losers will always come into your life no matter the age. But, with age you can spot them with a quickness therefore no bad deeds. I love this black dress on you. It is comfy, chic and ageless. . .
    Neti recently posted…No Age LimitMy Profile

  8. 08.2.2016 / 8:49 pm

    Sorry to hear about your struggle. Everything you say is true. Hang in there.
    Shybiker recently posted…Lake PlacidMy Profile

  9. paul
    08.2.2016 / 9:42 pm

    amazing in this look

  10. 08.3.2016 / 9:21 pm

    No matter how evolved, matured, and prepared we become with age and experience, life always finds a way to keep us in check…and while the psyche is an amazing thing…one of the things that I have learned in this life is that the enigma of human beings is that we are both fragile and unbreakable at the same time. And life will deliver us enough adversity to challenge our unbreakability. It is up to us to protect each other’s fragility. So I am sending positive vibes and thoughts and prayers your way that you will come through this challenge with both your fragility and unbreakability in tact.

    And that dress is as adorable as your are stunning.

    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

  11. 08.8.2016 / 2:17 pm

    Bold and sexy! I love seeing how you do things! 🙂