Velvet Maxi Dress & Denim Jacket: The Hot Matriarch

Velvet maxi dress, denim jacket and cage sandals.

I have to admit, I’ve been feeling a little guilty about my lack of attention to the blog lately…


…and by extension, my lack of attention to all of you. I’ve only been posting once or twice per week and I’ve definitely been neglecting the story portion of my posts, which I personally enjoy writing as much or sometimes more than the outfit part. And my social media presence has been of the hit and run variety; maybe one post per day and after I post I’m gone. If all goes according to plan, I’m hoping things will be back to at least semi-normal by the end of next week.

As I told you on Monday, I’m currently mired in IEP writing hell. I have four done (along with the meetings), but six more to write. My CFS flare-up is still out of control; it has not been this severe since I was first diagnosed. Last night I fell asleep at 5:30…seriously, 5:30. I slept until this morning and still felt like I had never even gone to bed. I’m not sure what caused it to start raging like this, but I’m thinking it might be a combination of work-related stress and menopausal hormones.

Normally IEP season doesn’t give me this much of a beat down, but in addition to all of the paperwork I feel like I can’t get ahead in my classroom. I went from 7 students last year to 15 this year…15! That my friends is a lot of life skills students in one classroom. And the range of their abilities is off the charts. For example, in math class, those 15 students have to be split out into 7 different math groups with abilities ranging from basic single digit addition to double digit multiplication…that’s 7 wildly different lessons to be taught in just one class.

I know it probably sounds like I’m being whiny, but honestly I’m not. I’m just explaining the reasons behind my lack of blog dedication as of late. I hope that you all can bear with me for another week or so and then we’ll get back to the regularly scheduled programming.


Before I get into the nuts and bolts of the outfit, I want to throw some love in my son’s direction. I wore this yummy velvet maxi dress to a wedding this weekend which my son came home for. Between the wedding and the reception he and I took a little side trip so that he could take my outfit shots for me. I have to say, I think he did a pretty fabulous job, and it was actually a lot more fun having someone do the shots for me!

When I saw this stunning vintage velvet maxi dress last year on my lovely friend Suzanne’s blog, I fell in love. And then when I realized it was for sale in her Etsy shop, Vintage By Suzanne, I knew it had to be mine. The first time I wore it, I styled it more casually with combat boots and a moto jacket. This time, since I was wearing it to a wedding, I went with my cage sandals and black clutch. I also lowered the brooch to below the bust this time; the last time I placed it higher to keep the neckline secure since I was wearing it to work.

I can’t tell you how excited I was that the weather cooperated and it was cool enough to wear it. Since it was a Fall wedding, I’ve known for months that this velvet maxi dress was what I wanted to wear. The thought momentarily crossed my mind that maybe it was a bit much for the occasion, but it only crossed my mind and went right out the other side. This dress is one of those one of a kind statement pieces. It’s not only beautiful and just the tiniest bit over the top in the best sort of way, but when I put it on I feel beautiful; kind of like the hot matriarch of a vampire clan.


Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb every once in awhile. If you have a piece in your closet that you find a little intimidating to wear because it is a true statement piece, throw caution to the wind and put it on. It’s up to you to ignore the voices in your head that are saying, “Um, maybe not.” Think about how beautiful you’ll feel. Think about how happy it will make you to look amazing and not like everyone else. Wear it like you were born in it. Own it. Rock it. Be the hot matriarch of your own vampire clan.


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Dress: Vintage By Suzanne (Similar);  Shoes: JCPenney (Similar);  Jacket: Chico’s (Similar)

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  1. 10.6.2017 / 4:46 am

    Honestly , knowing what you do for a living and the fact that I know that world VERY WELL, I have always been in awe of all you do. Education is changing so much and in Florida the ESE world is out of control. So much paperwork, so many meetings, and we keep getting our budgets cut so we have fewer teachers. We used to have 2 self contained units, now they are all mainstreamed. It is such a disservice to our children it makes me sick. But you know what? You deserve a break and I hope your CFS calms down soon. The beginning of the year is exhausting for anyone so I can only imagine how that affects your CFS . Cheers for the weekend friend, I hope you get a little downtime. Take care of yourself, we’ll all still be here!
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  2. 10.6.2017 / 7:53 am

    You look gorgeous in this dress! I can see why you fell in love with it . Hope things get better for you soon!

  3. 10.6.2017 / 8:59 am

    You look gorgeous in this.

    The thing I love about this dress is not only does it look fabulous but it is SO COMFY!

    Thanks for the shout-outs.

    Keep on truckin’ along and hopefully things will settle back down for you. I think that people that suffer with these chronic diseases have more difficulty dealing with them the older they get sadly. At least that is what I’ve been finding.

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  4. 10.6.2017 / 11:29 am

    I hope and pray you get back at least 50% of your pep and soon, babe. You are always such a ray of sunshine to others xoxo

  5. 10.6.2017 / 11:43 am

    That dress, and you in it, are gorgeous!!!
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  6. 10.6.2017 / 12:04 pm

    Debbie.. wow, this is a stunner of a dress on you! The rich burgundy, the jewel.. i love it! i am excited to wear velvet as i have a fair amount of it in my fall wardrobe. This is so beautiufl and flowy.. the weather here is going to cool down soon so i can take advantage of the fall fabrics, i hope.
    Enjoy your weekend!
    jess xx

  7. Petite Silver Vixen
    10.6.2017 / 12:23 pm

    Oh my, Debbie, you look stunning! Absolutely stunning in that velvet dress. And I adore the brooch, the perfect finishing touch.
    Suzanne really does have some beauties for sale at her etsy shop and I’m so glad you bought this. You’ll get loads of wear from it.

    Sorry to hear about your CFS flaring up. That must be so hard to deal with so sending you lots of love. And I know it’s frustrating when you feel you’re neglecting your blog. Heck, I’ve not blogged for months for various reasons and am only just dipping my toes back into instagram as you know. But I’m still enjoying your posts even though I’ve not commented for ages. Take care.

  8. 10.7.2017 / 12:51 am

    Thanks for linking up to Top of the World Style. This color looks great on you. Great contrast between the tough denim and the soft velvet. Very interesting!
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  9. 10.7.2017 / 5:24 pm

    gorgeous velvet dress! you look amazing!

  10. 10.9.2017 / 11:53 am

    Va-va-va-WOW! You look like the SULTRY vampire clan matriarch!

    And I’m GRATEFUL when you’re a little behind in your posting, cuz then *I* don’t feel guilty for not keeping up! Ha – I can make anything be about ME.

    I had the exact same rhinestone brooch, it was my mother’s. It looks perfect the way you’re wearing just adding a little sparkle to the velvety darkness.

    Just keep plugging away…soon those IEPs will be behind you….


  11. 10.9.2017 / 5:20 pm

    I hope you get to feeling better soon. It has to be so difficult to manage everything and I don’t know how you do it. I am praying for you since I don’t know what else I can do.

    Meanwhile you look like an angel in this dress. Soft and kind and smart and strong!

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  12. 10.10.2017 / 3:04 pm

    I’m so glad that despite your crazy busy schedule you still find time to post. This velvet maxi dress looks absolutely gorgeous on you, and the color is perfect for your complexion. This is such a cute fall look.
    Thank you for linking up this week!

    ~xo Sheree
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  13. 10.12.2017 / 4:13 pm

    Look out , Elvira! We’ve got one hot mama of the vampire clan and she is rockin’ that velvet dress! You look amazing. Sorry to hear your CFS is flaring up. I can’t keep up and I am not teaching full time and struggling with CFS. Stress is such a big factor in making us feel pooky. Take it easy and find time for you! Hope you feel more yourself soon. – Amy

  14. 10.12.2017 / 4:41 pm

    I love shopping Suzanne’s etsy shop. Goodness, this dress was made for you! I love the color and pretty way you have styled it, especially the addition of the beautiful brooch.
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