Have you ever given much thought about what other people think of you? I don’t necessarily mean whether or not they like you or if they approve of what you do or don’t do…
…I mean their actual perception of who you are; your “persona” if you will. Over the years at work I’ve developed a reputation for being someone who takes no shit. Not from anyone. Not any day of the week. The funny thing is, I am by nature a non-confrontational person. Seriously. If there is any way I can avoid a confrontation I will. Like the plague; or wearing tights.
Typically, as in 99.9% of the time, if I’m worked up enough over a situation to open my mouth, it’s because I view something as being inherently wrong. It’s something that needs defended or addressed. And I have a zero tolerance policy for BS. I don’t go off all willy-nilly and half-cocked just to piss people off. My intention is never to make someone feel badly or to be a bitch simply for the sport of it. There has to be a solid reason. Otherwise I just keep to myself and do my own thing. I also don’t necessarily go out looking for confrontation. Most days the farthest I venture from my room is across the hall to use the restroom. Sometimes, for reasons beyond my comprehension, people will simply bring it to me. I could be irritated about something, but have absolutely no intention of doing anything about it. But if it is brought directly into my world, then well, don’t go off pouting with your tail between your legs after I speak my mind.
The crux of the situation is that while it is a good thing (in my opinion) to be viewed as someone who speaks their mind when it’s necessary, we all know what the flip side of that is; especially if you’re a woman. You are a bitch. With a capital “B”. No. No one has actually ever said that to me directly. But I’m not naive, I’m pretty cognizant of how the world works. At the end of the day does it really matter? Not so much. I know who I am, and if I can look myself in the eye in the mirror and be proud of what I see, then that’s all that truly matters. But it is unfair and an entirely inaccurate assessment. By labeling and thus judging someone based solely on one aspect of their personality you miss out on all of the other good stuff. And wouldn’t another view of someone who has no qualms about voicing their opinion be a person who is passionate and dedicated to their beliefs? That’s a positive in my book. But hey, that’s just me, voicing my opinion.
Even though I love the look of layered outerwear, I mean for crying out loud, I did an entire post about it I still often forget to do it. After the fact, I think “Crap…I should have layered that jacket!” This was one of those days where it occurred to me ahead of time. I absolutely adore this blush pink moto vest and it adds so much to the denim jacket when they are layered together. I’m also a slacker in the denim on denim department. It’s not that I don’t like it, I just don’t do it very often. It definitely works as long as the denim is two different shades. And the floaty piece of delightfulness around my neck? Believe it or not, I found it at our local tiny family owned pharmacy…who knew? The sweet little rose gold sequin clutch? A local craft store for $5 thank you very much. Sometimes you find the coolest stuff in the strangest places.
Layer your outerwear whenever the opportunity presents itself. It adds a whole other dimension to your outfit. To avoid bulk, make sure that either both layers are lightweight and/or one of the layers is a vest of some sort.
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