Pink Moto Vest & Nude Pumps: With A Capital “B”

 

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Have you ever given much thought about what other people think of you? I don’t necessarily mean whether or not they like you or if they approve of what you do or don’t  do…

THE OUTFIT

…I mean their actual perception of who you are; your “persona” if you will. Over the years at work I’ve developed a reputation for being someone who takes no shit. Not from anyone. Not any day of the week. The funny thing is, I am by nature a non-confrontational person. Seriously. If there is any way I can avoid a confrontation I will. Like the plague; or wearing tights.

Typically, as in 99.9% of the time, if I’m worked up enough over a situation to open my mouth, it’s because I view something as being inherently wrong. It’s something that needs defended or addressed. And I have a zero tolerance policy for BS. I don’t go off all willy-nilly and half-cocked just to piss people off. My intention is never to make someone feel badly or to be a bitch simply for the sport of it. There has to be a solid reason. Otherwise I just keep to myself and do my own thing. I also don’t necessarily go out looking for confrontation. Most days the farthest I venture from my room is across the hall to use the restroom. Sometimes, for reasons beyond my comprehension, people will simply bring it to me. I could be irritated about something, but have absolutely no intention of doing anything about it. But if it is brought directly into my world, then well, don’t go off pouting with your tail between your legs after I speak my mind.

The crux of the situation is that while it is a good thing (in my opinion) to be viewed as someone who speaks their mind when it’s necessary, we all know what the flip side of that is; especially if you’re a woman. You are a bitch. With a capital “B”. No. No one has actually ever said that to me directly. But I’m not naive, I’m pretty cognizant of how the world works. At the end of the day does it really matter? Not so much. I know who I am, and if I can look myself in the eye in the mirror and be proud of what I see, then that’s all that truly matters. But it is unfair and an entirely inaccurate assessment. By labeling and thus judging someone based solely on one aspect of their personality you miss out on all of the other good stuff. And wouldn’t another view of someone who has no qualms about voicing their opinion be a person who is passionate and dedicated to their beliefs? That’s a positive in my book. But hey, that’s just me, voicing my opinion.

THE OUTFIT

Even though I love the look of layered outerwear, I mean for crying out loud, I did an entire post about it I still often forget to do it. After the fact, I think “Crap…I should have layered that jacket!” This was one of those days where it occurred to me ahead of time. I absolutely adore this blush pink moto vest and it adds so much to the denim jacket when they are layered together. I’m also a slacker in the denim on denim department. It’s not that I don’t like it, I just don’t do it very often. It definitely works as long as the denim is two different shades. And the floaty piece of delightfulness around my neck? Believe it or not, I found it at our local tiny family owned pharmacy…who knew? The sweet little rose gold sequin clutch? A local craft store for $5 thank you very much. Sometimes you find the coolest stuff in the strangest places.

THE TIP

Layer your outerwear whenever the opportunity presents itself. It adds a whole other dimension to your outfit. To avoid bulk, make sure that either both layers are lightweight and/or one of the layers is a vest of some sort.

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Vest: Century 21 (Similar);  Jacket: Express (Similar);  Pumps: Amazon (Similar);  Clutch: Similar;  Jeans: GAP via Poshmark (Similar)

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16 Comments

  1. 05.20.2016 / 7:10 am

    It’s a shame that we get a bad rap for standing up for ourselves sometimes and you’re right, when people judge, they miss out on the good stuff! Love your blush vest and pretty scarf! This is such a cool look!

    Jill
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    • debbies
      05.22.2016 / 7:46 pm

      Thank you Jill! We can’t do anything about the perceptions of others, but we really do miss out on the whole person when we snap judge based on one aspect of their personality…

  2. 05.20.2016 / 8:50 am

    You’re right that sexism colors this subject because being strong and assertive, like you, is not always encouraged in girls and women. I’m glad you overcome that and are yourself.

    Me? Well… most people who get to know me personally like me (often, a lot) but a few people who pre-judge me because of who they guess I am (wrongly) sometimes reject me. Maybe you know what I’m talking about…
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    • debbies
      05.22.2016 / 8:02 pm

      That is the problem with judging others based on only one thing that we know of them…all of us judge to one degree or another; it’s human nature. The thing is many people aren’t open-minded enough to reevaluate their opinion after getting to know more about someone. Can I go from 0 to bitch in a hot second? Yep. But does that change the fact I have a huge heart and will be the most loyal secret keeping friend you’ll ever have? Nope. Unfortunately, a few people might miss out on that. Just like some people will miss out on the wonderfulness that is you just because of one aspect of who you are…and I personally find that one aspect to be beautiful. xo

  3. 05.20.2016 / 9:26 am

    If you were a man you’d just be considered strong and focused.

    bisous
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    • debbies
      05.22.2016 / 8:03 pm

      I hear ya on that one sister!

    • debbies
      05.22.2016 / 8:05 pm

      If some people consider me to be a bitch simply because I have no problem standing up for what I believe to be right, than so be it. I used to be one to cower and keep my mouth shut…maybe more people liked me that way, but I like myself a whole lot better the way I am now. 🙂

  4. 05.20.2016 / 6:30 pm

    Truth is we all can be a bitch……but why does being someone who takes no shit have to be labeled anything other than assertive?! I dig it. Good for you…..I love you as is lady! (ps cute shoes!!) Erin

    • debbies
      05.22.2016 / 8:06 pm

      And I love you right back Erin! We’ve never met in person, but I kinda feel like we’re a lot alike in that regard. 🙂

  5. 05.20.2016 / 11:36 pm

    I am so not one to care what opinions of me are especially in the workplace. I do me period. Not sure if it’s a good or bad thing but it works, works for me. But gosh, I adore how you infuse the prettiest colors into your looks. Amazing!!!!

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    • debbies
      05.22.2016 / 8:08 pm

      Fortunately, me neither. The people who know the real me know that I have a wicked crazy sense of humor, will love you like nobody’s business and will keep every secret you ever tell me…the other people are pretty much irrelevant in the grand scheme of things… 🙂

  6. 05.22.2016 / 4:18 am

    i think it is just confidence and believing in ones beliefs! I love the blush vest..i think all things blush! A great color for all skin tones. Lovely colored scarf and I dig those shoes Deb😀
    Jessxx
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    • debbies
      05.22.2016 / 8:09 pm

      That is absolutely what it is Jess! Blush is my new bff…when I saw this vest I knew we were meant to be together…lol!

  7. 05.23.2016 / 6:33 pm

    Oh the double standards between the sexes really annoys me. A man would be called assertive, yet we’re labelled bitches when we voice our opinion, express confidence and live our lives without taking any BS. Oh well, I’d rather be true to myself than a wallflower.
    I love everything about this outfit from top to toe especially the softness of the scarf against the denim and the moto. And isn’t it great when you find items in the most unusual places? That always gives me a kick.

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